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Danny Dyer (British actor) wrote in an advice column in a men’s magazine,

You’ve got nothing to worry about, son. I’d suggest going out on a rampage with the boys, getting on the booze and smashing anything that moves. Then, when some bird falls for you, you can turn the tables and break her heart. Of course, the other option is to cut your ex’s face, and then no one will want her.

An ap0logy has been issued. The apology is half assed.

Due to an extremely regrettable production error, an inappropriate and indefensible response to a letter has appeared in this week’s issue. Zoo editor, Tom Etherington, apologises unreservedly for any offence the response may have caused and has launched an internal enquiry to ensure lessons are learnt.

Let me rewrite that for them.

Due to a culture of mysogyny and lack of understanding of the sexist culture we live in, an inappropriate and indefensible response to a letter has appeared in this week’s issue. Zoo editor, Tom Etherington, apologises unreservedly for blatantly furthering the culture of violence against women and making light of the plight of the millions of women who are physically, emotionally and otherwised abused each day. We have launched an internal enquiry to ensure lessons are learnt.


Iceland, which banned prostitution last year, has now banned all strip clubs and “any business that makes money off of nudity.”

I mentioned a few posts back about the anti/pro sex feminism chasm, and this is a big example of the anti-sex side. A lot of immediate reactions I’ve heard to this new legislation (after “people go topless in Iceland? Isn’t it cold?! GAHHH) tend to support it, under the guise of protecting women. But who are we protecting women from, and who is doing the protecting?

Here are a few things to think about before supporting this type of legislation in your community and abstractly.

Making things illegal doesn’t mean they stop existing. They go underground, where the likelihood for crime and abuse skyrockets. Banning stripping doesn’t mean banning strippers, it means banning strippers in public places. Back alleys and underground clubs aren’t the sort of public that respond to that regulation too well.

-Limiting options isn’t feminist. Regulating women’s sexual expression and what they can do with it isn’t what was fought for.

-What happens next? Are these sources of money going to be replaced by other jobs that these women have skills for? “Helping” women who haven’t asked for your help by “liberating” them and then leaving them high and dry only opens them up to further abuse.

Assuming demographics makes an Ass out of U and Me. All too often, anti sex feminists support an image of a downtrodden woman, suffering from abuse and drug habits, as the main workers in the sex industry.  These people totally exist, but those who choose to work in the sex industry through no coercion are impacted negatively by these sort of bans.

So what’s a feminist to do? I’m going to go with: support a moderate option! (Being moderate is very radical these days, people. Isn’t it crazy?)

Regulate the sex industry! Make it safe for women to request their rights and have a safe, judgement free legal system to go to! Offer support programs for workers lacking options! Promote a fair living wage for all workers, and judgement free, affordable healthcare for those in the industry. Stop the circumstances that result in people being forced into the sex industry, i.e: have programs that target violence, poverty, substance abuse and promote education and job training.

Make the industry safe and consensual by eliminating undesirable factors that make women feel forced to enter the sex industry and allowing those who wish to work in it a safe, healthy, respectful environment.

All too often we find ourselves separate from these issues: “I’d never want to work there!! Who would!!!” (that’s my inital reaction, srsly, I understand.) but eliminating options and looking down on other women for their choices isn’t cool, either.

Over and out,


I’m gonna rehash an oldie but a goodie:


Regardless of what she’s wearing, doing, saying, drinking, or where she is doing any of these things or with whom she is doing them.


Keshia Cantor was handed a pamphlet explaining to her that her immodest dress may cause her to raped and was responsible for men sinning. Here’s where the news article fails: it goes on to describe Cantor’s dress, asserting she’s a “good girl” who was all covered up while working at her mother’s fast food restaurant. Uhm, hold on.

“Bad girls” don’t deserve to get raped either, and they aren’t responsible for men “sinning.”

So good job,  Clare Golfordo of the Herald Courier press, for covering these sexist, fingerpointing, inaccurate pamphlets, even though you didn’t quittte follow through.

Bad job, society, for needing to know exactly what the girl handed this pamphlet was wearing. I mean, after all,we have to know… what if she deserved it?

Bristol Harold Courier: “Blame the victim: Religious leaflet claims ‘ungodly’ dressed women provoke rape”

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Enjoy celebrating the life of an extraordinarily successful evangelizer and eating salty meat, or whatever else you do.

There’s a cute comic over at XKCD called “Porn for Women.” Check it out!  It is a nice commentary on how women aren’t supposed to be sexual beings, in stick figure form!

Love, radfemles

P.S. Need an abortion? Hope you’re not in the military. That post, coming soon.

A recent development marks the beginning of the end to discriminating against women who wish to serve on submarines. Last week, Defense Secretary Robert M. Gates issued a letter to Congress stating the end of the ban. It will be a year until the first female serves, and it will be on larger submarines, which are considered easier to “reoutfit” for co-ed use.

New York Times: “Ban on Women on Submarines Ends”

Who here has watched G.I. Jane? I mean, I only got up to the training people to be tortured part before leaving and hugging a stuffed animal, but I have friends who love the movie. In one of beginning scenes, while sunk into a bathtub with her also military husband, she recounts being told she could not serve on the submarine, because there was only one bathroom.

Hopefully this is the beginning of the end of women being discriminated against in the military! What’s next, allowing gay and lesbians to serve?!

These statements are rather hopeful. Especially in light of my next post: Want a Safe, Legal Abortion? Don’t Join the Military.

Educate yourself and others on the challenges women in the military face today!

Okay, so, in the off chance you’re reading this, here’s the deal:

Comments aren’t moderated. I reserve the right to change this at any point.

I’m not going to give explicit details on who I am. If you do figure it out, through IP addresses or stalking or sheer brilliance, and you fuck up my off the net life, I will figure out a way to make your life awful. That means: no contacting me offline, no social media buddying, no contacting my family/schools/friends. Got it? If you can’t play fair get the fuck out.

My blog. I take criticism, praise, stories, musings, ramblings, and cookies. I do not take hatred. If you consider yourself an antifeminist homophobic dickhead and you’re just going to tell me I’m going to hell for being: in college/queer friendly/pro choice/female/whatevs., don’t bother and go away. If you’re the aforementioned dickhead and you want to actually ask questions, point things out, criticize, or share, you can stay.

I really don’t hope I ever to reference this post, people.